The 3 B’s

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This is a combination of Mindfulness and Meditation that can be helpful to those who find clearing their busy mind a difficult task. It is designed to help you be both calmer and more in control of your own thoughts.

I call it the 3 B’s – feel free to try it, remember adapt it to yourself – you are an individual.

Sit quietly or lie in bed, use mood lighting, scent or music (see previous blog posts for more information) if needed.

The Technique:

B 1 – Tense and relax your muscle groups from head to toe to ensure relaxed – bodyscan

B 2 – Breath in and out, counting slowly to 4 or 5 for each breath in or out. Recognise thoughts if they happen but refocus on your breathing

B 3 – When you start to notice thoughts are calmer create a bubble around you, give it form, colour and texture, be creative, really focus on it. Now create your world inside it, is it hot or cold, does it have a smell or colour? Is it a beach or a snowy mountain, use all your senses to create your world,. Give it as much detail as possible. The more you focus on your senses and the detail in the world the more control of your thoughts you will have and the calmer you will become. Try to focus on it for as long as you can – usually 5 minutes is a good time.

Remember if it doesn’t work for you or feels detrimental please stop using it.

If you’d like some face to face counselling in the Stoke-on-Trent, Newcastle-under-Lyme or Staffordshire area please do contact Wright Minds at laura@wrightminds.co.uk or on 07598810304

Self-Care

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Self-Care is well known as an important area of remaining functional and productive. This is not unique to the therapist’s world, self-care is good practice for everyone. To spend time finding out what recharges our batteries and then doing those activities is crucial to living a full, happy and productive life.

A lot of the time people say ‘oh you should try self-care’ or ‘have you done self-care today?’ but they fail to tell people what self-care is or their description is so vague people have no idea what is meant by self-care.

Self-care isn’t elusive, or known by a few, it is something you do have to put a little effort into finding out. So as children we are excellent at self-care, we know just when we want to nap, or play in the mud, or climb trees, or read, or take the video player apart, or make a Lego castle…. I could go on but I think you get the idea. As adults we get so busy with work, housework, children, etc that we forget the skill children have called ‘how to do what we feel we should be doing’. This is self-care, those little indulgences that make us smile or relax or feel happy. This is however, unique to everyone. For some people it is cleaning for others this would be a chore. For some it is building play scenery at the local theater for others it is being in a busy concert, for others it is reading a book by a stream. No answer is wrong if it is right for you and harms no one else in the process. You may need to experiment with things until you find ones that ‘feel’ right for you, these may differ based on your personality, mental health needs, physical health needs, circumstances, but everyone can find something.

I recently surveyed people and I will share the results with you in as helpful way as possible.

What people class as self-care

I asked for what people do as self-care to help give you a starting point of things to try, some of these are expensive, some are free, others are in between, remember be adaptive and be yourself. I have created a self-care bingo card using their answers. Have a go at making your own then when you are in need you can pick it up, choose an activity and hopefully feel revived. To download and use the full bingo document click on the word Bingo below

Self-care Bingo

Journaling Crochet Knitting Sewing Nails Hair Crafts Art/painting/drawing Sleep Set boundaries
Cup of tea/coffee Camping Holiday Mini break Cross stitch Weaving Taking photos Comedy club/you tube comedy Spa day Woodwork, building
Cycling Saying no Pilates/yoga etc Redecorate Musical instrument Play music Sex Bath Gardening Sitting in garden
Book/reading Board games Computer games Sudoku/crossword etc Writing hiking Walking Theatre Cinema Turn phone off
Films TV shows Roleplay Model making/ warhammer Swimming Friends Singing Family time Talking out loud through a problem Pets
Running Jigsaws Cooking Going out for meal Gym Martial arts Meditation Audio books Housework Socialising

Just click on the link above to download your PDF copy

Frequency of self-care

This all depends some activities require more time or money than others, or are only available at certain times, so it is always good to try and find a selection of items to put on self-care bingo to give you the best chance of finding one when you need to.

Out of 25 people who responded to my survey 15/25 (3/5) of them said they went out at least once a week (some said they went out to activities multiple times a week), 6/26 said they went out once a fortnight, 3/25 said they went out once a month and 1 said they went out less frequently than once a month. So the average answer here is that most people go out at least once a week.

Average Costs of Self-Care

I asked people how much they would spend on ‘going’ out or ‘treating themselves’. I published this in my last blog to show how therapy could cost the same as self care but just to remind you here are the results. This proves that self-care does not have to be expensive, especially if the average going out is at least once a week.

The average spend out of 22 participants was £60

The lowest spend was £15

The maximum spend was £120

If you need more than Self Help and would like some face to face counselling in the Stoke-on-Trent, Newcastle-under-Lyme or Staffordshire area please do contact Wright Minds at laura@wrightminds.co.uk or on 07598810304

Panic Attacks

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I have recently been on a course about panic attacks, continuing professional development is an important part of being a good therapist. Here are some of the key points I learnt and some links for you.

The symptoms of panic attacks are:

  • Palpitations
  • Sweating
  • Trembling
  • Shortness of breath or shallow breathing
  • Chocking
  • Chest pain or discomfort
  • Nausea or tummy ache
  • Feeling dizzy or faint
  • De-realisation
  • Fear you’re dying
  • Fear you’re losing control
  • Numbness
  • Hot or cold

Often panic attacks can be down to cognitive failure to understand the body’s responses to a stimulus and thus catastrophise it. For example out of breath while walking uphill, misinterpretation of the experience means body might think it is having a heart attack and cause panic symptoms. If these get repeated when you next feel out of breath your body might have a panic attack. People then stop doing the cause of the panic e.g. don’t go out walking which avoids the panic, bit creates a negative coping mechanism instead of altering the thought process that led to the panic originally. 

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy often helps as it changes thought processes, but equal so can Person Centres, and Mindful therapy.

At least 1 in 10 people have experienced a panic attack and up to 1 in 60 have a panic disorder. If you need to talk about panic please seek help, it is not unusual and help is available.

If you need more than Self Help and would like some face to face counselling in the Stoke-on-Trent, Newcastle-under-Lyme or Staffordshire area please do contact Wright Minds at laura@wrightminds.co.uk or on 07598810304

The Cost of Therapy

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During my recent research I explored how much people would pay for a night out or for a hobby. My aims was to compare this to the cost of a therapy session in the hope of convincing you that therapy may be worth the cost.

The results of the research are as follows:

The average spend out of 22 participants was £60

The lowest spend was £15

The maximum spend was £120

Other research shows that activities such as:        

  • a meal out can cost between £40-£60 on average
  • having your hair done £30-£60
  • a night out drinking/ pub quiz £20-£60
  • having your nails done £20-£40
  • a tanning session £20-£40
  • Cinema £15-£30
  • Wine for evenings £10-£70

These are activities that people do on a regular basis. Counselling is usually for a limited period typically between 6 – 20 weeks, with people returning at a later date if they wish to discuss other issues.

Therapy costs between £30 to £35 at Wright Minds. Would you consider spending £210 on 6 weeks of therapy a good bargain if it helped you feel better about yourself in the long term and enjoy your life more? Most clients find that therapy improves their life in some way.

When you next consider self-care consider therapy isn’t as expensive as you may think when compared to your other daily activities.

If you need more than Self Help and would like some face to face counselling in the Stoke-on-Trent, Newcastle-under-Lyme or Staffordshire area please do contact Wright Minds at laura@wrightminds.co.uk or on 07598810304

Self Help – Anxiety, Panic & Depression

These are two books on my shelf that are written to the client to help them start their journey to good mental health. I found them very enlightening.

Remember, if you are journeying to better mental health and find that the books alone don’t work you can always contact a trained therapist or your Doctor for further help.

If you’d like some face to face counselling in the Stoke-on-Trent, Newcastle-under-Lyme or Staffordshire area please do contact Wright Minds at laura@wrightminds.co.uk or on 07598810304

Self Help – Apps

So I guess that sounds like a weird topic – Apps – but allow me to explain. I’m not talking about Apps that counsel you, but about Apps that can help you relax. I have downloaded and reviewed several Apps that are aimed to offer soothing or calming music. The three I’m going to share are free to download and I found easy to use.

The First is called Ambience – it allows you to choose and combine up to 3 sounds, such as city sounds, nature sounds, rain, water, fire burning, white noise, musical instruments and many more. You can create your perfect calm soundtrack and you can set it for how long you want it to run for, 10 minutes or 3 hours, its up to you.

The Second App I have found useful is Mindfulness, it has several guided Mindful Meditations that you can listen to or if you scroll through the menu it also include several tracks of music that you can use to help you relax such as Asian Spa Music, Deep Waters, Deep Space.

Third I suggest Sleep Sounds. Really easy to use, choose the main sound then add others, build them up your way, set the volume on each sound and even set a timer for when it stops

You could use these sounds or tracks to help you relax, de-stress, be mindful or meditate or even help you to fall asleep.

If you need more than Self Help and would like some face to face counselling in the Stoke-on-Trent, Newcastle-under-Lyme or Staffordshire area please do contact Wright Minds at laura@wrightminds.co.uk or on 07598810304

Self Help – Mood Lighting

Easily available are mood lights, the one above is called a moon globe. They offer low, soft lighting to help you feel more relaxed while meditating, trying to relax or fall asleep, or make your office desk feel more calm. They can work really well in conjunction with meditation apps, as sleep aids, or even nightlights as often they are rechargeable rather than needing mains power.

If you’d like some face to face counselling in the Stoke-on-Trent, Newcastle-under-Lyme or Staffordshire area please do contact Wright Minds at laura@wrightminds.co.uk or on 07598810304

Self Help – Anxiety

Another self help book that I find full of useful and well written fact is by Dr Tim Cantopher. He explores why we may feel anxious and offers simple explanations how we can make start to make changes

If you’d like some face to face counselling in the Stoke-on-Trent, Newcastle-under-Lyme or Staffordshire area please do contact Wright Minds at laura@wrightminds.co.uk or on 07598810304

Corona Virus

I just wanted to recognise that this current climate of pandemic is causing worry and panic for many people, please do reach out for help if you need it

A fellow therapist has shared this, I feel it is excellent and wanted to share it with you all. Please do take the time read it

https://www.mindaffinity.co.uk/cv-19-download

Therapy shall continue and I will be offering sessions via Whatsapp and Zoom as safe and secure online services.

If you need more than Self Help and would like some face to face counselling in the Stoke-on-Trent, Newcastle-under-Lyme or Staffordshire area please do contact Wright Minds at laura@wrightminds.co.uk or on 07598810304

SAD

I’m not on about the feeling, I’m talking about the diagnosis. Seasonal Affective Disorder.

This impacts a small percentage, research shows somewhere between 5%-10%, of the population to the point where it impacts on their ability to function normally.

Symptoms have been noted as:

  • Low mood including feelings of sadness, over emotional, irritability, tiredness, lethargy, despair, guilt, worthlessness, depression, some people even report suicidal feelings;
  • Problems sleeping – needing more sleep but not feeling refreshed after sleep, or waking up repeatedly;
  • Eating issues such as craving carbohydrates, sweets, comfort food;
  • Social issues such as avoiding going out, not making conversation, avoiding people, more reactive to stressful situations;
  • Physical issues such as more colds, infections, stomach ache or ear aches etc.

The NHS and Mind both have great pages on SAD for you to do some research for yourself

What are the solutions?
Well we would all like the best solution which is to go on holiday somewhere with lots of sunshine, but that isn’t always possible. Other options are daylight lights, sometimes called light boxes which can be brought from shops or online and vary in prices from £15 – £100. Daylight alarm clocks that create a false dawn in your room with natural light to help you wake up more naturally. (I did a quick search and found them available on Amazon, John Lewis e-bay, SAD a specialist company).
A solution without cost is to try to get outside as much as possible, take a walk around the office at lunchtime if possible, or just before/after work if its still light. Research shows around to 30 minutes light exposure can have a positive impact.
If you just can’t get enough natural light and symptoms persist you can always go to see your Doctor who may prescribe anti-depressants for the winter period or you can see a therapist to help you talk about the symptoms and ways to work around them.

If you’d like some face to face counselling in the Stoke-on-Trent, Newcastle-under-Lyme or Staffordshire area please do contact Wright Minds on laura@wrightminds.co.uk or 07598810304