Worse before Better?

I always discuss with my clients during our initial session and our contracting that counselling can make you feel worse before you feel better.

It appears I am not the only person who has noticed this

It is not unusual that talking about the hard times, the difficult memories and the painful emotions will make us feel worse. It is hoped that by unpacking the overflowing closet of our memories, throwing away if we can things we don’t need, reorganising the things we want or need to keep, figuring out how to feel differently about things and storing them away neatly and under our control will help us feel better in our day to day lives.

A little bit like panning for gold, you have to work hard and make a lot of mess but what you are left with at the end is a beautiful thing.

If you’d like some face to face counselling in the Stoke-on-Trent, Newcastle-under-Lyme or Staffordshire area please do contact Wright Minds on laura@wrightminds.co.uk or 07598810304

What is Therapy 101

So I have recently been asked to write some information for a company I am working with to provide mental health support. They were wondering how to explain therapy or counselling to potential clients. This is the response I gave:

  • Counselling is a one to one conversation between a counsellor and a client.
  • Anything can be discussed in the conversation.
  • The counsellor is there to listen.
  • Each conversation is called a session and last up to an hour.
  • The things said in the session are private or confidential.
  • Unless you tell the counsellor about an illegal activity such as money laundering, drug trafficking, terrorism, human trafficking, child abuse or serious risk of harm to someone.
  • Confidentiality will be explained to you in the first session.
  • You get to choose if you want to go to counselling or not – if you don’t want to just let us know.
  • Remember your counsellor will respect you, remember to respect them.
  • Over the sessions you and your counsellor can discuss anything you wish to. The aim is to help you feel better and think differently about your situation.
  • Sometimes the counsellor may offer you a technique to help you – it is always your choice to try these, they don’t always work as everyone is different.
  • Your counsellor will work with you to try to find the best way for you to feel better.
  • Everyone is an individual and thus every therapeutic relationship formed is individual.
  • Some things clients talk to counsellors about are: grief, loss, anxiety, depression, sadness, illness, health, families, work, money, abuse, rape, children, stress, difficult choices, divorce, relationships, sexuality, gender, addictions, self-harm, eating issues, and many more.
  • Counselling usually takes place once a week. It can be the same time each week or different days or times to suit you (within reason).
  • Things can start to feel worse before they feel better as emotions are talked about. This is very normal.
  • Counselling helps most people but there is no guarantee it will fix everything.
  • You have to want to talk to your counsellor and make a change, counselling is something you do, not something that is done to you.

If you’d like some face to face counselling in the Stoke-on-Trent, Newcastle-under-Lyme or Staffordshire area please do contact Wright Minds on laura@wrightminds.co.uk or 07598810304

ADHD and Autism

This week I’ve been updating my knowledge with some CPD (continuous professional development) on Autism and ADHD.

I thought it might be nice to review it here for you.

Firstly I have learnt the basic signs or symptoms of ADHD – inattention, hyperactivity, impulsive, emotional, lots of constant intrusive thoughts, overwhelmed, lack of detail focus/orientation, lack of order, relational difficulties, impulsive behaviour, outgoing, confident, sport/physically active, in attentive.

This is usually treated with medication and person centred integrated care services to tailor the interventions to the individual and their family.

And the basic signs or symptoms of Autism (which now includes Asperger’s syndrome – they are no longer classified as separate) – various degrees of impairment, verbal and nonverbal, social, educational, resistant to change, sensory overload, distant, inner focus, highly intelligent, hyper focused, repetitive activities, tics/repetitive movements, compulsive behaviours, struggles with social interaction and non-verbal communication, creativity, innovative.

This is usually treated without medication and person centred integrated care services to tailor the interventions to the individual and their family.

Some really useful link I have found are the NICE guidelines for ADHD NICE guideline NG87

NICE guideline NG87
NICE guideline QS39

And Autism

NICE guideline QS51
NICE guideline CG142
NICE guideline CG170

Finally I found the Government autism review really useful. https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/think-autism-an-update-to-the-government-adult-autism-strategy

Suicide Prevention

I have often posted about suicide, and the final video I want to share for now is this one, it is very powerful and moving. Remember you are all able to save a life.

You could help save a life.

If you watch one thing today, make it this ❤️️

Posted by Eagle Radio on Thursday, 16 November 2017

If you’d like some face to face counselling in the Stoke-on-Trent, Newcastle-under-Lyme or Staffordshire area please do contact Wright Minds on laura@wrightminds.co.uk or 07598810304

What is perfect?

Again a slightly unusual post for a counselling site but I just really like what this gentleman is trying to say. Have a listen and make up your own mind.

If you want to learn how to love yourself then maybe counselling can help you find yourself

If you’d like some face to face counselling in the Stoke-on-Trent, Newcastle-under-Lyme or Staffordshire area please do contact Wright Minds on laura@wrightminds.co.uk or 07598810304

Talk about it!

Now this isn’t the usual type of video I share but I just thought the humour made a powerful message. If you are worried about anything to do with your health mental or physical talk about it to someone. 

Embarrassment at going to the doctors

This clip could save your life. And contains the most embarrassing moment of my life ever.

Posted by Russell Howard on Friday, 9 November 2018

If you’d like some face to face counselling in the Stoke-on-Trent, Newcastle-under-Lyme or Staffordshire area please do contact Wright Minds on laura@wrightminds.co.uk or 07598810304

Susan David Emotional Courage

This lady I had not come across before but I found this video thought provoking and thought I’d share it with you.

If you’d like some face to face counselling in the Stoke-on-Trent, Newcastle-under-Lyme or Staffordshire area please do contact Wright Minds on laura@wrightminds.co.uk or 07598810304

Brene Brown

This lady is an inspiration, she talks about the power of vulnerability, listening to shame and generally discusses how we can use our own minds to support ourselves rather than pull ourselves down. Here is just one video of her, she has many books and videos out there if she inspires you.

If you’d like some face to face counselling in the Stoke-on-Trent, Newcastle-under-Lyme or Staffordshire area please do contact Wright Minds on laura@wrightminds.co.uk or 07598810304

A Broken Heart

Now I’m really fond of TED talks. I find them short and informative and thought provoking, so over the next few weeks I’ll share a few videos with you that have made me think and you can see if they spark anything for you.

The first one is from a man called Guy Winch about mending a broken heart. 

If you’d like some face to face counselling in the Stoke-on-Trent, Newcastle-under-Lyme or Staffordshire area please do contact Wright Minds on laura@wrightminds.co.uk or 07598810304

Suicide Minister?

10th September

Will a new minister for Suicide help prevent deaths?

This article discusses the Prime Ministers hopes for mental health and suicide prevention. It also contains some really helpful links to get information and support.

If you’d like some face to face counselling in the Stoke-on-Trent, Newcastle-under-Lyme or Staffordshire area please do contact Wright Minds on laura@wrightminds.co.uk or 07598810304